Sighting

It’s a long shot you will see this but I’m giving it a try for true love. Maybe you told friends about me and maybe one of them might see this and then tell you about it. Therefore, I am including as many details as I can remember to help you recognize yourself and I in this post.

I have a memory that several years prior to 2023 that I saw an attractive woman persistently looking at me on a Trimet public bus in the Portland, Oregon metropolitan area. I think she might have been you (the person I saw twice in 2023) due the following reasons. She had the same effect upon me emotionally, one that only her and you had upon me. I remember that I had tried to create a missed connection post about her on a different site, but the post was removed repeatedly. Such also happened in early 2024 when I tried (for the same reasons) to make a post about seeing you twice in 2023. It was very discouraging that the those posts got removed. I don’t have a memory of the appearance of the woman I saw long before 2023, but I have memories of the appearance of the woman I saw in 2023.

The first time I saw you in 2023 we were on a Trimet bus in the Portland metro area; most likely it was in Beaverton or a little ways east of Beaverton. I do not remember the route number of that bus ride. You and I were seated on the passenger side of the bus. There were three or four rows of seats in-between us and the back exit of the bus was also in-between our seats. You were in the front half of the bus I was in the back half of the bus. You were probably sitting in a window seat and I was very probably in a window seat. Thus, when you were looking at me you had your head turned to the back (but maybe you were sitting on side bench, one facing the isle). During that ride you twice looked at me with a long gaze (probably each gaze was about a minute in length, maybe even longer). I have great difficulty in reading the emotional content of facial expressions, other than a few types, especially when the person is not saying anything. During the ride I thus had difficulty in interpreting your emotions and your intentions. I did not know if I should look at you the whole time you were looking at me, or if I should turn away. I did look away at least one since I thought that maybe you wanted me to do so, but from the corner of my eye I noticed you were still gazing at my face. It was very hard for me to avoid looking at your face, and I took glances at it when you were not looking at me. I was not disturbed by you stares, for I liked your boldness and I also sometimes stare. I hoped your stares were an indication that you were strongly attracted to me and have some of the personality traits (including boldness in showing interest, and often being serious minded) that I want in a potential girlfriend. Your facial expression was one I don’t recall seeing before in anyone who looked me. You were not smiling, but nor did you look upset, nor displeased, nor scared. I got the impression you are like in me in some behaviors. When I was looking at you I had a serious [removed]and thus no smile) on my face. I don’t remember what your clothing looked like on that bus ride. During that bus ride I was likely wearing a coat (probably a dark green one or a dark blue one. I might have been wearing a baseball style cap also).

You are an attractive woman of the white race (who might also be a Latina). You are slender and healthy looking. Your hair is black and straight and is long (at least reaching your shoulders. Your eyes are black or dark brown. Your skin complexion is clear - no brown spots or moles were detected on your face. I have not noticed any makeup on your face. I had not noticed any jewelry on your head. I estimate your height is about 5 feet 6 inches (without shoes on).

My racial mix is primarily white, but I am also black. I thus have tan colored skin all the time (but my sister looks white). My mother is primarily black race, but is also of white race; my dad was white. To some people, I look Middle Eastern. I have straight hair, except it tends to get wavey or curly when it gets longer. Also, many of my hairs have turned grey. I have a full beard and it has some grey hair (primarily on the center of the chin and on the mustache). I sometimes let the beard grow over the top part of the front of my neck. I am slender with a small frame (for a guy). Relative to your apparent age, I am an older man. My height is 5 feet 8 1/2 inches (without shoes on).

As the days and weeks went by since the first of the two times in 2023 when we saw each other, I strongly hoped I would see you again, so that we could talk to each other and hopefully make arrangements to begin dating each other. After some time had gone by I had stopped thinking of you until during the second time in 2023 when we saw each other again.

The second time in 2023 we saw each other again was likely in November (maybe near Black Friday sales time) and it was probably dark outside at that time. To me the weather was cold and thus I was wearing a coat, and on the bus and I possibly had a cap on. My coat was either dark green or dark blue. I was on my last (for that day) ride home from work. I boarded the west bound Trimet bus (route number 88) at the Beaverton Transit center. [I don’t drive, though I used to drive and have a current driver’s license.] I was seated on the driver’s side of the bus in a window seat in the front half of the bus. I saw you soon after you entered the isle of the bus. You likely boarded the bus at the same transit center or at one or two stops past it. I didn’t recognize you till after you became seated.

On that bus ride you had tan colored skin. You wore a white top which was in the shape of a bra, but a very fashionable one designed for outerwear. I had never seen in person anyone wearing anything like it. It was not a sports bra, nor a halter top. To me it looked like something a fashionable young single woman might wear at a night club or dance club to go dancing as a visitor of the club. The top was opaque. Over it you had a completely open thin blue zippered jacket. I could not help but look at you, since you are attractive to me and I am single. A little later I noticed you noticing that I was looking at you. You seemed to look hopeful in response to my attention to you, but I then quickly turned my head toward the passenger side of the bus. I did that so you wouldn’t become offended by me looking at you.

Moments later you sat in a row that was directly in front of me. That was a very pleasant surprise to me, but I still didn’t yet recognize you from the time earlier that year. When I started looking forward, I noticed that you had a female (one younger than you) sitting in the window seat next to you. The female sitting next to you had very dark skin and black hair with tight curls and her facial features did not seem to resemble yours. She wore a thick white coat. You had with you a white shopping bag (probably a paper one). On the side of it facing me there was no writing and no symbol visible. Inside the top of it was a white textile; my guess is it was probably a blanket or a coat.

Two young men, of the same ethnicity, were sitting in the row in front of you. The one in the window seat handed you something which looked like a rolled-up poster. That man smiled at you, but you appeared to look uncomfortable in response. About a minute after you had become seated you zipped up your jacket. [You seemed to have no interest in that man nor the young man sitting next to him.] Shortly after that you turned your head left towards me, looking at my face, and you held the gaze for probably about a minute or more. As soon as you looked me at that time (while you were seated) I recognized you as the woman I saw earlier that year. That is because your facial expression at that moment, including the look in the eyes, was exactly the same as the prior time in that year. That look on your face, especially in your eyes, is very distinctive to me. I was very happy to see you again, my wish having come true, but unfortunately I didn’t know what to say to you. I wanted to ask you for your phone number, so we might meet again, but I thought I should talk with you about other subjects before asking for your number. But the problem was I couldn’t think of anything else to say, other than comment about the weather (which was not unusual weather). My emotions became more and more intense, and that made it even harder for me to think of what to say. About a minute afterwards, you paused in looking at my eyes, I managed to enthusiastically say “Hello” to you. Immediately you and the female with you turned around and simultaneously said “Hi” to me in a very friendly way; with you having a big beautiful smile. The way you said “hi” gave me the strong impression that you are a sweet person, and your voice sounded incredibly beautiful. Then the two of you resumed looking straight ahead. I had hoped you would say more than “hi” since I didn’t know what to say next. Later you turned around a with another long gaze at me, which initially had the exact same expression as before. During that later gaze at me I was smiling at you, but with my lips closed. Each of the times you gazed at me, you did not change the location you were looking at. You were probably looking straight into my eyes. Science says that if two people stare into each other’s eyes (for a certain amount of minutes [about two or three minutes I think]) they will start to feel in love with each other. Your looking at me at that day had that effect on me. I felt like I had fallen (or very nearly fallen) in love with you - and even now I still feel that way about you. When the bus came close to my stop, I went into the isle, turned towards you and smiled at you and enthusiastically I either said “Have a great night” or “Have a good night”. I had hoped that would motivate you to see me again on the 88 bus (I ride it more than any other). I was likely wearing blue jeans (and if so, they were probably skinny jeans). I exited the bus at the intersection of Allen Blvd. and Erickson Ave., in Beaverton, Oregon.

In trying to figure out what emotion (or emotions) was(were) in your eyes, weeks later I looked into a mirror at my eyes while I had feelings of love, longing, and sadness for not having met you since 2023. The sadness was so great that I nearly shed tears. When I looked in the mirror while in that emotional state, the expression of my eyes (including them looking watery) looked exactly like the expression in your eyes during both of the days we saw each other in 2023.

Of all the women I have met I have the intuition/instinct/feeling that you are likely the one whose personality is most compatible with mine. I have the feeling that you would be the best match for me. There is a hit popular love song (from decades ago) which says “I never knew love before, then came you, then came you”. I still feel like I am in love with you.

In about March of 2024 I tried making a Missed Connection post about you on the other site I tried posting years earlier, but it kept getting deleted. Hopefully my post on this site will fare much better. You have changed me for the better. I have greatly improved my conversational ability in talking with women, including strangers. I have also improved other aspects of my personality. I made those changes mainly in order to be well prepared if I happen to see you again. If you read this post please contact me. I miss you. I have been trying to find you for at least 14 months.

Breakfast or lunch; I am also willing to considering what you would prefer as a date